How do you want to be in life?
We often get caught up in ‘to do’ lists. Do the shopping, check your emails, get your WOF done. The list is endless.
Some people write ‘to have’ lists, full of things they want to buy – a big house, a nice car, or the latest smart TV.
However, to me, the best kind of list is a ‘to be’ list. Instead of outlining the things you wish you get done, or the things you’d like to have, a ‘to be’ list outlines the way you want to be in life. For example, I want to be a great parent for my children, I want to be enjoying nature on a regular basis, or I want to be effective at work. ‘To be’ items should be things that we love, things we enjoy, ways of life that feel good to us. They should match our values and all those things that are most important to us.
‘To be’ items can then be used as a starting point to guide us in our day to day behaviours and things we choose to ‘do’ or ‘have’ in our lives. For example, if a person wants to be continually learning and growing, they might choose to do courses or invest in books to support that. If a person wants to be a great parent, they may wish to focus on playing with their children more or helping them with their homework. What’s important about these actions is that they are generated as a result of what is most important to us, and it therefore feels good to do them. That way we ensure our ‘to do’ lists and ‘to have’ lists are coming from our hearts, rather than us just doing things out of necessity or because it’s what society expects of us.